Monday, January 26, 2009

Xin Nian Kuai Le!



Happy Lunar New Year!

No, we're not Chinese, but one of our daughters is, and this leads us down a tricky path. It is important for us to recognize and honour her heritage. To deny it would be denying who she is and where she came from. At the same time we don't foster any delusions that we are a Chinese family celebrating in the way a "normal" Chinese family would. That would be impossible. So in the mean time we cobble together a modest celebration to acknowledge the event without, hopefully, bastardizing the whole thing and throwing at our daughter some funky white westernized version of the real thing. Fortunately I've had some tips from our daughter's former foster mother. We are also lucky that our girl is still young enough that as long as the festivities involve authentic Chinese noodles it's good enough for her.

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Don't mess with my papaya!

What's this?


It's a karate belt. A white stripe belt to be precise (though to me it looks more like a black stripe, but that's beside the point). What is the point is that my sweet little Maiapapaya was just graded for the first time in karate and earned this nice little number. Tonight I'm a very proud mamma to a very proud little (and I mean 43" little) peanut.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Oh, it gets even better ...

This morning I received an excerpt from a transcript from a meeting of the Parliamentary subcommittee for Citizenship and Immigration. The following quote was an example being put forward by the Honourable Andrew Telegdi who was one of the vice-chairs of the committee (a Citizenship and Immigration subcommittee is currently not sitting because our chicken-a$$ Prime Minister suspended parliament) Mr. Telegdi was apparently expressing his concern with the impending changes to the Citizenship Act:

"Suppose, for example, a Canadian couple are spending a few years working abroad and give birth outside Canada to a baby. Let's call her Anna. It could actually be a soldier. She is a Canadian citizen through her parents. The family returns to Canada when Anna is six months old and she grows up in Canada. And we heard from Mr. Teichroeb, who had a similar situation. As a young adult, she chooses to study abroad and finds herself pregnant. If she gives birth to her child outside Canada, the child is not a Canadian citizen under the terms of Bill C-37.

If the baby--let's call her Mary Ann--happens to be not entitled to any other citizenship, she will be stateless. Bill C-37 does have provisions to allow Mary Ann, and others like her, to apply for Canadian citizenship if they are stateless; however, there are a number of conditions that must be met, including the requirement that the stateless child of a Canadian citizen should have resided for three or four years preceding their application. This means the child will have to remain stateless for at least three years.

This bill also fails to explain on what basis Mary Ann would be allowed to enter Canada in order to meet the three-year residency requirement. Even if Anna attempts to sponsor her child as an immigrant under family class, she will face a challenge in finding travel documents for Mary Ann so she can travel to Canada as a stateless person. She is not entitled to a passport."

Our adopted daughter is caught up by the same problem with the legislation as the fictional girl "Anna" in the example above (having been born abroad, but the child, in our case adopted, of Canadian parents). The plight her child "Mary Ann" faces could be the same as that of a future grandchild for us. While it's unlikely that our daughter will give birth abroad, it's not an impossibility and our own government has just set up the mechanism by which our grandchild could be a stateless individual caught in limbo with no means by which to even enter Canada and attempt to obtain her citizenship.

I have sent some letters, but I am doubtful they will change anything. This garbage has already received royal ascent and comes into affect in April, just in time for our daughter's birthday. Nice gift.

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Not really equal ...

(warning: long, somewhat complicated rant about the rights or lack thereof of our adopted daughter. But, ya, it is important)

When I became the adoptive mother of a child from a different country I was prepared for the inevitability that at some point I would have to crawl out of my cocoon of white privilege and advocate for her. I just didn't realize it would have to be against my own government.

At the time when we adopted our daughter we had to apply to sponsor her to immigrate to Canada. When she landed in a Canadian port of entry she was granted permanent resident status (by virtue of being the legal child of Canadian parents) and then we had to apply for her Canadian citizenship. While adopted children's applications were expedited (and the normal three year wait was waived) it was added stress and bureaucracy that many adoptive parents felt that they shouldn't have to endure (heavens know we'd already been through enough). If we had received government approval to adopt these children and they are legally ours in every sense why would they not be afforded the same rights as our biological children and given automatic citizenship? Many other countries, such as the United States, were already recognizing this right for their internationally adopted children. Finally in January of last year a great deal of lobbying paid off and the government began granting automatic citizenship to the internationally adopted children of Canadian citizens.

Unfortunately it seems the equality of rights for our biological daughter and our adopted daughter will be short lived. As of April the federal government will be enacting new citizenship legislation. A major part of this legislation addresses Canadians who were born in another country.

Up until now, children born to Canadian citizens, regardless where these children were born, were granted automatic citizenship. This has become problematic for the government. There are those who have abused this privilege. They will immigrate here, obtain citizenship and all of the rights and benefits that it affords, but then return to their country of birth. They will have children, who are automatically Canadians. These people may never reside in our country again, but will demand assistance in times of crisis. They may come here for free health care if they have a serious medical situation. This is taking advantage of the system and I understand the government's desire to quash this type of abuse. This is the impetus behind the legislative changes that are about to come into effect. But the careless, lazy way the new law has been written will impact upon our youngest daughter.

The new law states that if someone is a Canadian citizen, but was born outside of Canada any children that are born to them outside of our borders or adopted from a birth country outside of Canada will not be granted citizenship. The legislation even goes so far as to specifically mention that this applies to children born in other countries who are adopted by Canadians. In other words, if in the future our biological daughter gives birth while outside of Canada or adopts a child born outside of Canada her child will automatically be a Canadian. If, on the other hand, our legally adopted, supposedly equal in every way, daughter gives birth while outside of Canada or adopts a child born outside of Canada her child will not be granted citizenship. This is ridiculous. Our children are being raised side by side within the borders of our country. They will both hopefully become contributiging members of Canadian society. But, because our adopted daughter happened to be born somewhere else she does not share the same rights as her sister.

There are absolutely no provisions in this legislation regarding residency or ties to Canada (ie. having Canadian parents). The government will not take into consideration the fact that my daughter is living here and is in every way a member of Candian society. She will be classed the same as the system abuser who has obtained citizenship and returned to their country of origin.

You might think "what's the big deal?" "What are the odds that she will have a baby while working or travelling abroad?" Probably not great. What are the odds she will adopt? Pretty reasonable. Many adult adoptees do. But the bigger issue is equal rights. It's the principle.

When we were granted approval from the province of Ontario to adopt our daughter we received a letter. In that letter there were two lines that struck me. They read:
"Once the adoption is finalized, Ontario legislation recognizes the child as a full member of the adopting family and as such the child is treated in the same manner as all other children of legally constituted families. Ontario welcomes the child from China ..." It is hurtful and maddening that our federal government does not seem to share the same sentiment towards our daughter.

Saturday, January 17, 2009

For a lack of anything better ...

I've been kind of down for a few days, questioning what I'm doing in my life (nothing serious, you know, just one of those moods - so don't worry family members who I know are reading this, this funk excludes my husband and kids who I'm grateful to say are the best thing in my life). So, because I don't want to bore you with my pity party here's a little Saturday afternoon entertainment. I like these guys. Thought you might too.

Monday, January 12, 2009

Ah, just go google yourself!

So at the encouragement of Elise's last post I googled myself. Quite honestly not a terribly interesting read (though that might be a good thing), just some tags to a couple of articles I wrote for Root and Sprout and a five year old duathlon result. So, for a lack of anything better to write about (I'm actually working on a few new projects and am saving my scant brain power for that) here's some interesting things about myself that you won't find if you google my name:

1. By my formal education I am a Prosthetic/Orthotic technician. I am trained to make artificial limbs and orthopedic braces. Unfortunately where I currently live there are no clinics where I can ply my trade.
2. I used to fence competitively.
3. I once had a drink bought for me in a pub in a small Newfoundland town by a former Star Trek cast member.
4. I know how to weld.
5. I'm a step, bio and adoptive mother.

What interesting things will I not find out about you if I google your name?

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Spam update:

So I contacted my email provider's IT department again. This time I went directly through the spam filter's techincal support link. I received a very prompt reply. Apparently it's my fault. They informed me that I should not have my own email addy listed as an approved sender. Of course! Now don't I feel like a silly bitch. But seriously. How stupid is that?! I have to block myself as a sender?!

Oh, and now I have the image of an extremely well-endowed Christmas elf smugly parading around in my head ("nine inches in 2009..." ). Thanks for that Ray.

Monday, January 5, 2009

Fargin' SPAM!


spam: n. Unsolicited e-mail, often of a commercial nature, sent indiscriminately to multiple mailing lists, individuals, or newsgroups; junk e-mail.
You've all heard of it. And I've got it. Applenty. What really has me ticked is that up until a month ago I NEVER had it. My email server's spam filter worked like a charm. Not anymore. Something has changed. SPAM is blasting into my inbox at an alarming rate. And the crazy part is, apparently it's all from me. Yep, I'm not sure how it works, but the spammers have got some sort of work around that is tricking my spam filter into thinking that the email is originating from my address. And even better, they all seem to be coming from folks offering to help me enlarge and enhance my male member, if I only had one. Yes, on a daily basis I get bombarded with such savoury subject lines as "**** her from behind", "nine inches in 2009". I could go on, but the rest aren't really appropriate to repeat. It's annoying as hell, but I'm not sure what to do about it. I report the content to SPAMCOP.com, but that doesn't stop it, it just rats on the senders, if their webhosts really give a crap what they're doing. I've complained to my email service provider and their IT department just gave me some "a lot of people have viruses lately" mumbo jumbo (I HATE when IT schmucks just spew back standarized boxed answers to complaints). I really don't think it's a virus. My sister (same provider) is having the exact same problem. I think their spam filter is on the fritz. The only thing it seems to be catching these days it legit stuff that I subscribe to and everything else just sails on through. Suggestions would be appreciated.

Friday, January 2, 2009

Happy 2009!

After my little holiday hiatus I am happy to finally be back in the blogosphere. I find it difficult to sit at the computer for any length of time with my husband and two kids hanging over me. It makes me all paranoid and defensive ... like they are watching me. And of course it's only a matter of time before someone is climbing on me (the kids I mean - my husband doesn't do that at the computer).

So finally with a little computer time to myself I would like to present my New Year's goals. That's right, goals, not resolutions. Resolutions sounds so stuffy and proper and impossible to honour, so I'm setting goals. Resolutions are to be broken. Goals are to be strived for and reached. So, my goals for 2009 ...

Get in better shape.

Be more positive.

Write more; set some goals and work towards them.

Teach my oldest daughter to play the piano.

Enjoy life more.

What are your goals for 2009?